What Is Loneliness Feel Like?
Loneliness can be experienced in different ways by different people, but is often described as a painful longing or a feeling of lostness and isolation. It can be accompanied by a lack of purpose and a sense that life has no value.
Feeling lonely can be overwhelming, causing you to feel detached and disconnected from others, even when you’re amongst friends and loved ones. Loneliness can cause you to lose out on meaningful relationships, and stop you from engaging in the activities you enjoy.
You may feel sad, or even abandoned, because you believe there is no one available to be with you. You may also be afraid to be on your own, because you need other peoples’ companionship and closeness in order to feel safe and secure.
Counselling For Loneliness
Loneliness can be the result of one or more of these factor:
shyness, anxiety, social anxiety, relational difficulties, illness or disability, divorce and separation, past negative experiences, trauma, work stress, lack of confidence or low self-esteem
Working on the underlying factors will help you understand why you are experiencing loneliness, and enable you to create change. Therapy may include:
- Exploring your emotional experience of loneliness, which can lead to self-discovery of your inner self
- Learning how to distinguish between isolation and loneliness, which will help you to go towards others, to find joy in discovering yourself in relation to others
- Learning new communicational skills and improving your emotional agility so you can take initiatives and create connections
Let us guide you in understanding how your past is limiting your present, so you can integrate new healthier ways of managing your life.
Loneliness Self Help Now
Here are some self-help tips to help you manage your feelings of loneliness:
- Surround yourself with people that make you feel heard, understood and valued.
- Volunteering is a great way of meeting new people and boosting your self-esteem by helping others.
- Join a support group. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with others will help you make connections.
- Avoid isolating yourself from family and friends. Spend time with people you love, go out for a coffee, have lunch or take a walk.
- Understand the difference between feeling lonely and being alone. Being alone gives you peace and space to connect with yourself.
- Share your feelings and thoughts with others. This will help you feel more understood.