How Does It Feel To Have Low Self Esteem?
If you have low self-esteem you may feel that you’re worthless and not good enough at anything that you do. You may tend to blame yourself for things that aren’t your fault, which can lead to you being bullied or taken advantage of by others.
Having low self-esteem can stop you from forming meaningful relationships, and doing the things that you like to do. You may feel lonely, and useless, and that no one likes you or wants to spend time with you.
Feelings of low self-esteem can also trigger symptoms of anxiety and depression. You may feel frightened to make decisions for yourself, but then get angry with yourself for not sticking up for what you want or believe, leaving you feeling that you’re unworthy of happiness.
Self Esteem Counselling
Our friendly and expert team of therapists can help you build confidence and self-esteem. We will help you identify any unhelpful patterns that might be maintaining your low self-worth, and help you create new ways to feel confident.
Here are some of the interactive tools and techniques that we might use:
- Exercises to reduce physical tension that can lead to trembling, blushing, difficulty breathing etc.
- Role play exercises to practice assertiveness
- Challenging negative thought patterns and learnt behaviours associated with not feeling good enough, sense of failure, being self critical, feelings of shame and powerlessness etc
- Practicing specific activities that promote good self-esteem, assertiveness and self-compassion
Our Consultant Psychiatrist can prescribe medication to alleviate symptoms of depression, anxiety and distress.
We can gently guide you in understanding your personal attributes, and provide you with the tools to build confidence in social situations. Self-esteem counselling will help you make sense of who you are, and help you integrate new healthier ways of thinking about yourself.
Building Confidence Self Help Now
You may not be ready to talk to us yet, so here are some self-help strategies that can help you build confidence:
- List your positive attributes. Read your list regularly, as this will help you focus on your strengths, rather than your weaknesses.
- Start doing activities you are good at on a regular basis. This can help you build confidence and make you feel better about yourself.
- Spend more time doing things that you find enjoyable and fun. Meet with friends or family, go to a gym class, or book a massage.
- Join a support group. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with others will boost your self-confidence and help you better understand who you are.
- Surround yourself with people who value you as a person, and will help you focus on the positive aspects of yourself.
- Take care of your personal hygiene. Wash and style your hair, trim your nails and brush your teeth.
- Start volunteering or get involved with a local charity. Helping other people will make you feel better about yourself and increase your self-esteem.