Understanding the patterns in your life — and finding a different way forward
I work with individuals and couples navigating relationship difficulties, questions of identity, life transitions and recurring patterns that no longer feel helpful. You may know that something needs to change without being sure what that change should look like, or understand the problem but find yourself repeatedly returning to familiar ways of thinking, relating or coping.
My approach is integrative, which means we can draw on different ways of working depending on what you need. I am interested in your story and lived experience, but also in where you want to go from here — helping you understand what may be keeping you stuck and explore healthier, more sustainable ways forward.
- 16 years’ professional experience
- Registered Member MBACP
- Member of the Black, African & Asian Therapy Network (BAATN)
Could we be a good fit?
You may find my approach useful if:
You’re questioning who you are or navigating a significant transition involving your identity, faith, sexuality, culture, neurodiversity, work or career.
You’re experiencing difficulties with connection, communication, intimacy or recurring conflict within a relationship.
Anxiety, low self-esteem, trauma or feeling overwhelmed is affecting how you experience yourself or move through everyday life.
You recognise a recurring behaviour or coping pattern — around relationships, eating, body image, alcohol or pornography, for example — and want to understand what keeps drawing you back to it.
Bereavement, chronic illness or women’s health difficulties are affecting your emotional wellbeing, relationships or ability to balance different areas of your life.
You want to understand yourself at greater depth while also having practical goals, tools and strategies that can help you make changes outside the therapy room.
What working together can look like
When we first meet, I’m interested in two simple questions: why therapy, and why now? I want to understand what has brought you here, what you would like to be different and what has or hasn’t helped before.
I’m also curious about you as a person — your story, your lived experience and the people and relationships around you. You are the expert on your own experience; my role is to walk alongside you as we begin making sense of it.
Understanding your story
My approach is integrative, so our sessions can be structured or more exploratory depending on what we are working on and what you need.
Sometimes we may look at your past and the experiences that have helped shape the way you understand yourself today. At other times, our focus may be much more practical: recognising patterns, setting goals, learning ways to regulate difficult emotions or finding healthier ways of responding to a particular situation.
I will listen, ask questions and offer observations, but I can also gently challenge you when that feels useful. We may use tools and techniques between sessions, and I sometimes invite clients to use journalling, poetry or personal reflection as another way of exploring their experience.
Finding a different route
When the same problem keeps returning, I become interested in the role that pattern is playing.
Rather than simply trying to stop a behaviour, we can ask what purpose it serves, what need it is meeting and whether there might be another way of meeting that need that feels healthier and more sustainable.
My work draws on person-centred, psychodynamic, solution-focused, CBT, DBT and narrative approaches, alongside mindfulness, imagery and self-soothing skills. In practice, this gives us different ways of exploring your story, recognising patterns, developing emotional regulation skills and considering what you would like the next part of your life to look like.
I sometimes think of this as finding another route through familiar territory. You know the landscape of your own life better than anyone; our work together can help you see alternative paths through it.
Areas of experience
My work has included supporting people across a range of relational, emotional and life difficulties, including:
Identity, faith, sexuality, race and culture, neurodiversity, work and career changes, and other significant life transitions.
Relationship difficulties, intimacy, communication, conflict, co-dependency and couples work.
Anxiety, trauma, self-esteem, addiction, eating and body image difficulties.
Burnout, overwhelm, work-related difficulties, bereavement, chronic illness and women’s health.
About Patience
Patience brings both professional and lived experience to her understanding of identity, belonging, health and change.
Her own experience as a refugee and immigrant from East Africa contributes to her sensitivity to the ways culture, identity and lived experience can shape how someone understands themselves and their place in the world. Her experience of endometriosis and fibroids, including navigating healthcare systems and balancing work and life alongside illness, also informs her understanding of the emotional impact of women’s health and chronic health difficulties.
Across her work, Patience returns to a central belief: growth and change are possible. Her role is not to prescribe somebody else’s route, but to help clients understand their own landscape, recognise what may be getting in the way and discover different possibilities for moving forward.
Qualifications & Professional Credentials
Patience has 16 years’ professional experience as a psychotherapist.
Integrative Counselling Degree
University of Greenwich (2010)
British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)
Registered Member MBACP
Membership number: 93192
Black, African & Asian Therapy Network (BAATN)
Member
What happens when you get in touch?
Start with a conversation
Your free 20-minute discovery call is an opportunity to tell us what has brought you to therapy, what you are looking for and ask any questions you may have.
Find the right fit
We’ll consider your needs, preferences and what you would like from therapy, then recommend the practitioner we believe is best placed to support you.
Agree the next step
If you feel comfortable with the recommendation, our team will talk you through availability, fees and how to arrange your first session.
Fees
Patience’s session length and current fees were not included in the questionnaire response and should be confirmed before publication.
We’ll confirm current availability and answer any practical questions during your discovery call.
You don’t have to have it all figuer out
You may know exactly what you want help with, or simply know that something needs to change.
A free 20-minute discovery call is a chance to talk through what’s been happening, ask any questions and understand the right next step for you.
Confidential – No pressure – Clear next steps