7 Tips for Getting Over Relationship Break-Ups

Steps to Moving On

It’s scientifically proven that relationship break-ups are hard.

The feeling of love releases serotonin in our brains, and the absence of love forces us to go through withdrawals from it, which can cause feelings of hopelessness and depression in the wake of losing the support of someone we love and have a relationship with.

The end of a relationship may seem like an impossible feat, and can make the future seem bleak and negative, but there are ways to get past it and move on with methods to make yourself happy again on your own!

1. Give Yourself Time

You may feel pressured to be okay right away after a break-up, and get past it quickly instead of dealing with the pain for a long time. However, while it might not sound like it, dwelling in your hurt and feelings of sadness can actually be a good thing. Allowing yourself time to grieve the loss of a relationship is necessary for coming to terms with it instead of pressuring yourself to get over it before you’re emotionally ready to. You’re allowed to eat ice cream and cry for a week, and welcome the negative feelings you’re experiencing in order to be able to move past them.

2. Accept the Reality

Coming to terms with the changes that come with a break-up can often be the most difficult part. It’s often bigger than just losing your significant other, you might also be losing your best friend, or the person you go to with your daily worries and troubles, which means losing multiple people in one tough loss. But accepting that there are others who can fill those roles, yourself included, is almost as important as accepting the end of the relationship in the first place. It’s tough to face the reality of losing someone important in your life, but it’s the first step in really moving forward.

3. Keep Busy

Keeping yourself busy and productive in the aftermath of a break-up is incredibly important to the upkeep of your personal well-being. Staying busy can mean doing more physical activity and taking out negative feelings in a workout, or reading more, or taking on a new hobby like knitting, or graphic design, or writing.

4. Take Care of Yourself

It can be really difficult to keep on top of your personal hygiene and well-being when your brain is in emotional distress over the loss of a relationship. However getting up each morning and starting a routine of showering, brushing your teeth, washing your face, and brushing your hair can make you feel good on the outside, which is a step towards feeling good on the inside as well.

5. Be Honest With Yourself

It’s okay to not be okay, and it’s incredibly important when going through a big transition to be honest with yourself about how you’re feeling. If you’re feeling sad, don’t feel pressured to hide it, especially from yourself by repressing feelings. You are the only person you can count on to know how you’re feeling 100% of the time, so if you feel you’re not ready for something, or aren’t feeling okay on any given day, just be honest with yourself.

6. Create a Healthy Support System

It’s okay to rely on other people too. Your first instinct might be to hide away and isolate yourself when you get your heart broken, and try to nurse yourself back to health alone. However, surrounding yourself with people who love and support you, whether it be family, friends, coworkers, or other people in your circle, is a huge step in moving forward and making progress. Even if you might not want to, go to other people to talk about your problems and talk things through, because it helps to know that other people are there for you and you have people to fill in the gaps that a lost relationship might leave behind.

7. Don’t Look Back

It’s easy to carry on conversation with your ex, look them up on social media, stay in a rut and keep trying to understand the breakup or fix it. It’s much harder to move on, stay strong in moving forward with your life, and accept that your life is changing. But not looking back and letting go of the past can be the best move for your future. Looking at a breakup as a door opening to a new world of possibilities and opportunities instead of a door closing, is the first step to embracing the future, making progress on being your own person, and creating your own happiness.


If you’ve gone through a break-up and think you might want professional help taking the steps necessary to moving on and finding happiness after the loss of an important relationship, the EmotionMatters practice is here as a resource for you. Let us help you stand on your own. 

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